Being a faithful partner is not everyone’s game; people do not have the character or strength to deliver such things. It takes a lot of effort to run a real relationship, and dedication to be honest, loving, caring, there for a partner. Faking it will not run for a very long time because people will realise it very soon as the efforts will just be on the surface level.
Not every person who says those mushy words really adores you. Love requires hard work and dedication and not every person is prepared for that. Individuals can control you and give you the illusion that they are the one for you and their adoration is valid. However, in reality, all they need is sex or perhaps they simply would prefer keeping things at an arm’s length.
Here are five signs he is passing his time and he is not in love with you.
I remember falling in love, I wanted to get to the highest place in the city and scream and tell the whole world about my love, not hide it. I wouldn’t recommend this insanity to anyone but I certainly know that if the person who is in a relationship with you does not want his friends and family to know or vice versa – there is something shady. He does not want people knowing what is happening. He knows he is just passing his time and it means nothing.
If someone genuinely wants to be with you, he will let you know what his life is like and whether you will manage to fit in it. How you would like his family and how his friends would find you. What are the experiences that shaped him, what his childhood was like? He does not love you if it is the other way around. He makes sure he doesn’t end up meeting your friends or the other way around. You are a well-kept secret and he wants to keep it that way.
If neither of you ever thought of this then maybe you didn’t really have any affection at all and may be what you both wanted all along was physical intimacy.
Love is splendid; it is not an ordinary feeling. When you love someone, you feel it inside you and it feels amazing. It is not something that is average. Like everyday chores you are with someone spending time and just doing the basic things one does, without even having a good time. You do not connect as much; he is not interested in you. There is nothing special, even the way he makes you feel is not special than he just has you around out of convenience.
You are tagging each other on social media, or have inside jokes that people don’t understand, you enjoy each other’s company and have names for each other. If that is not happening then that’s a red flag. There are no memories to share or experiences, and it seems like the only memories you guys are making are in the bedroom. Therefore, this is more about fulfilling a basic need than being together.
If you do not connect to this person and don’t have sessions where you talk endlessly or hours and hours then you probably should think again. People who are in love always have those sessions occasionally where they can’t keep the phone down and keep talking to each other all night. There is so much to talk about and so much to share, yet the time seems to be less.
Communication is not what they do all day long or what they are up to, texting each other is not communication. By communication, we mean deep conversations about themselves and their personality. If you know their personal details through their Facebook account and not from the horse’s mouth, you need to re-evaluate the relationship.
If you are only connecting in one department of your relationship, which is just in the bed and after that you have a problem having a good time or just simply talking to each other than there is something wrong. Passion does not mean just in the sheets, it means otherwise also. The way you connect and feel about each other. However, if the top priority is sex, sweetheart you are just getting used.
Do not fall for their words instead fall for their actions. A man who loves you will just not say it; he will show it by his actions. If he is just faking those emotions to get into your pants than he will not take any concrete steps to win your love. You should not jump the gun in believing them so readily. See if their actions align with their words.
The first thing that a person needs to do when they decide to love their partner is to let go of their ego. Love and ego cannot co-exist together. If being right and egotistical with the person you love is more important than it is not love. When you love someone, you do not want to hurt him or her. However, for this person damaging the relationship for his ego is not a big deal,
They will never admit it even if they are, and for example even if your partner is wrong – at times a person has to let it go instead of fighting over it incessantly. The point is to love each other and share that affection. One decides to let go of things instead of bringing bad blood and fighting with each other. People who love themselves more tend to keep going on and can’t let go unless they win a fight – that is what is more important to them.