Sexuality is a vital stimulating force which human beings have in their lives. Sex shows a close relationship of the emotions in the lives of two people. A healthy sexual connection shows the close bond between the two individuals. Couples who value each other are more likely to show love and aim to grow their relationship in terms of their sexual lives.
In the start of a relationship, eroticism is literally at its height but after some time, it starts to fade away. There’s no need to worry if both of them know about their emotional parts in a relationship, and they want to bring innovation, closeness and sexuality in their sex lives. But before anything, you need to take a look at yourself, not body image, but as a sexual human being. A human being who deserves sexual pleasure.
1.Take Time to Focus Only On Your Partner
Communication is very important in every relationship. It also facilitates in sexual desires. When we openly talk to our partner, there seems to be a bond between us and for many people, it is said that the connection between you and your partner is a major factor and a step closer to having sexual activities. We all know how amazing it feels when you’re sitting with your partner on the couch and having an expressive conversation instead of sitting and being on your phones. When this happens, there is less chance of having the connection and has less chances of leading to sex. It’s preferred to take out time from everything and have that regular chit chat with your partner.
2.Be Open to Talk About Sex
When you both are having a good time, get your hands in action. For example, you can give each other leg or foot massages while you watch the television. Isn’t it cute that you guys are having a good time and you put your head on his lap while he strokes your hair? That’s the best time to talk about sex. You can tell him everything related to this topic which you like and what you wish to have. Let your partner be open about his thought too. Know what he likes and what he wishes to have.
3.Putting In Effort and Make Sex a Priority
One of the main things we’ve heard about sex is that it should be impulsive and unforced. Sex is never impulsive though, it’s just the feeling that we get. When going on dates, planning everything was very important. What to wear, where to eat, what to talk about etc. If sex followed by any chance, it didn’t seem to be so random. When you’re in a long term relationship, obviously it can’t be so sudden that you find yourself butt-naked in bed. You need to find the perfect time to be with each other. You need to think ahead for it, find a day when you both are at home, and make that day your sex day. Even if you haven’t had it in a while, talk about it and plan to make it happen soon.
4.Doing Something New and Exciting
It’s easy to follow the same sex routine with your partner. You know what you and your partner like, and that’s what you keep doing. You keep following the same routine over and over again but it’s also important to bring something fresh in your sexual activities. This is very important because it’s possible that it reminds you of the same excitement which you had on honeymoon. When you’re more sexually active with your partner, everything seems new. Everything you do seems exciting. So doing new things, which are fun and exciting, might remind you of the passionate stuff you did in the past. It can be in any way like trying a new position, wearing a new sexy underwear or even doing it in early morning and not waiting till the end of the week.
5.Keep yourself feeling hot.
When you try out new things like a new hairstyle or refreshing your wardrobe or even working out a few times in a week, this will not only make your partner happy but your self-confidence will also boost. Making an effort to make your appearance better every day can help you boost up your self-confidence and make yourself feel valuable.
If you have the thrill to try something new, there will always be a spark in the relationship between you two. Think of new things like going to some theme park, exploring some new area in the neighborhood, skiing or whatever that makes you both feel excited to try. Dr. Kat says “research has shown that spontaneity is an important component to happy, long-term relationships”.
7.Touch each other.
Touch has a lot of power, don’t ever underestimate that. From squeezing your arm to a foot massage will take you a long way in your relationship with your partner. Random warm touching will support impulsiveness and also will increase your oxytocin levels. This will result in more bonding between the two of you.
Don’t ever take your partner for granted and try those techniques again which used to catch their eye. When you do this, they’ll respond in the same manner which obviously you want. Remember what you guys did that brought you both together and started the spark.
9.Actually do date night.
Even though you’ve been in a relationship for a long ass time but that doesn’t mean that you guys can’t go on a date night. If you both love each other than the charm of going out, having date nights won’t fade away. Who doesn’t love going out on fancy dinners with the one you love?
10.Have more sex.
When you and your partner have a healthy and normal sex life, you’ve already taken the first step to guarantee that you both are keeping the passion alive. Sometimes pretending as if you need sex can be a boost your sexual energy and can give you both a fresh start to your sex lives. Having sex daily can make you want sex more and more.
11.Put your spouse first.
Being parents is a hectic job but you should also keep this in mind that it’s important to show your children what a happy relationship looks like. Because of this, everyone benefits. So it’s good to give your spouse a hello kiss when they get home.
12.Explore common interests.
It’s important to find the hobbies that you both love. It can be wine tasting, jogging, going to the gym or anything but guarantee, it’ll be better when you both are doing it together. It’ll create fun for both of you when you head out together to do something of similar interest.
13.And have separate interests.
Having a separate lifestyle than your partner can be taken in a positive way to as you both will have something to talk about when you get home which will keep the conversation going and the mystery can be very sexy too. If you and your partner have everything similar, it will take the situation to disinterest in sex. Some differentiation can be good for the both of you.
This may seem like a point that’s very basic but it can be forgotten very easily. It’s very romantic when you do little thing for your partner like saying thank you for small things or making your spouse’s favorite dish. Being thoughtful and concerned about your partner can be very prominent in front of your partner’s eyes and it’ll make them feel that you actually care about them. This leads you to the bedroom and everything goes the way you want it and how you want to be treated.
It doesn’t matter even if a trip that you’ve wanted can’t happen right now, but what you can do is to plan the possibilities with your partner and that’s how you can get very excited with your life for a while. You should dream big and fulfil it with your partner. You can see something in the magazine or on the internet and can plan forward to it. If you dream about something and then you change your dream into physical can make it amazing.
If you both are interested in something, join it and take classes for it together. If you and your partner learn together, you’ll grow closer too. It can be anything like yoga, French classes or aerobics etc. These stretches will take your sex life to another level. This will make you learn new things about your partner like for example, how the react with other people. The new things can make the spark come alive.
17.Eat dinner together.
Everyone has a busy life which makes the daily meals skip. Eating together is very important because it confirms the communication that’ll be done and that’s basically the foundation for having some good romance. It’s important for you guys to put the phones away, switch off the TV and laptop etc. and start talking to each other. Remember when you guys first met and couldn’t stop looking at each other? Yeah well try it again and see the magic.
18.Be adventurous in bed.
It doesn’t matter what the change is, whether it’s a new position, a new toy or even a new room of some place, it’s enough to heat up the things. You can go through different things that can help you and your partner turn on and do exciting things in bed. Having sex often can bring the both of you closer and make your bond stronger.
19.Share your fantasies.
Talking about the different and new stuff, that can make you turn on, will for sure, open new doors for your relationship. If you know your partner’s fantasies, it can help you start the dirty talk. It can even give you ideas for what to do next like what fantasies to change into reality. If you don’t want to tell your every fantasy then don’t, but if you do, you’ll be more satisfied in bed.